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but why would your mom get upset just because you had a dinner with friends? the fact that because it was a birthday dinner? or would any other dinner cause the same effect? i don’t really think you are in any wrong if you had said you did mention it to them weeks ago, parents just get weird on you sometimes. and in my experience, just agree with them u were wrong and just say sorry even if you weren’t in the wrong. :) just to make things less complicated. hope you feel better.
Parents feel like they should know their children’s lives more than other people do and they feel insulted when they don’t. I think your parents might feel like you don’t trust them or you aren’t close enough with them to share this informtation. It’s such a trivial thing though to not mention a birthday dinner.
Especially since it was such a small event. Does she expect you to call and tell her every littlie thing that happens in your life?
Maybe your parents still haven’t really ‘let go’ of you yet?
Or maybe your mom was really mad because she just felt like she looked dumb and ignorant about her own child’s life b/c other people knew what was going on and she didn’t.
I mean, if you want to look at birthday’s another way.. it kind of should be a special day for your mom and dad as well.
I wouldn’t sweat it though. It sounds like something that would happen to me. ;)
If it had been anger that you didn’t do anything with them on your birthday, then surely they would have organised to do something with you on the day. Seems to me that the main emotion was embarrassment that their friends knew more about what was going on in your life than they did. Just lay low and cop it – it’s not your fault, but these things happen when your friends’ parents are friends with your parents…
Thanks for the feedback so far, much appreciated. Doesn’t appear that anyone in this scenario is really at fault. Turns out that Dad isn’t all that bothered about the whole thing, actually. Mum’s the one who’s still fuming… I guess she needs a little more time to calm down.
Stop being a mummy’s boy. If you live away from home, then who cares? Your mum just has to get over the fact that shes bored and find something else to entertain her. Tell her to get over it – its not disrespectful
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but why would your mom get upset just because you had a dinner with friends? the fact that because it was a birthday dinner? or would any other dinner cause the same effect? i don’t really think you are in any wrong if you had said you did mention it to them weeks ago, parents just get weird on you sometimes. and in my experience, just agree with them u were wrong and just say sorry even if you weren’t in the wrong. :) just to make things less complicated. hope you feel better.
Parents feel like they should know their children’s lives more than other people do and they feel insulted when they don’t. I think your parents might feel like you don’t trust them or you aren’t close enough with them to share this informtation. It’s such a trivial thing though to not mention a birthday dinner.
Especially since it was such a small event. Does she expect you to call and tell her every littlie thing that happens in your life?
Maybe your parents still haven’t really ‘let go’ of you yet?
Or maybe your mom was really mad because she just felt like she looked dumb and ignorant about her own child’s life b/c other people knew what was going on and she didn’t.
I mean, if you want to look at birthday’s another way.. it kind of should be a special day for your mom and dad as well.
I wouldn’t sweat it though. It sounds like something that would happen to me. ;)
Without knowing the full story, I’ll just say this (cliché maybe but still true): most parents get comfortable with the fact that they’re the centre of their children’s lives, and it can be a shock when something drives home the fact that this isn’t the case anymore. A birthday dinner/party is the kind of thing you would have relied on your parents to plan for the first 10-15-20 years of your life, so not including them in it would be a big thing to them.
So on the one hand I don’t think you did anything wrong; but on the other hand her reaction is fairly predictable.
If it had been anger that you didn’t do anything with them on your birthday, then surely they would have organised to do something with you on the day. Seems to me that the main emotion was embarrassment that their friends knew more about what was going on in your life than they did. Just lay low and cop it – it’s not your fault, but these things happen when your friends’ parents are friends with your parents…
Thanks for the feedback so far, much appreciated. Doesn’t appear that anyone in this scenario is really at fault. Turns out that Dad isn’t all that bothered about the whole thing, actually. Mum’s the one who’s still fuming… I guess she needs a little more time to calm down.
Stop being a mummy’s boy. If you live away from home, then who cares? Your mum just has to get over the fact that shes bored and find something else to entertain her. Tell her to get over it – its not disrespectful